Of all the possible titles assigned to people in society, I personally believe the most commendable is the title of ‘Mother’. I respect and admire women who pro-create, far more than I respect judges or doctors or academics or social workers or teachers, or anyone else for that matter. I firmly believe that there is no harder job than that of ‘bringing up’ a whole nother human! I knew from a very young age that I was without doubt, incapable of ever giving so much of myself to another. Yet it seems most mothers; whilst living the most selfless existence of all us ‘labelled ants’ in society, for one reason or another, are either vilified, criticised, and/or belittled. Or worse, simply invisible to all, whilst they bob along ‘doing what nature intended’. As if the lifetime care of another soul is natural, so therefore, automatically some sort of breeze!!!
Take this job description and then tell me how Mothers came to be viewed as anything less than bionic?
You must be available for duty for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
You will inevitably invest every-one of your human emotions into your daily practice, as well as your mental and physical skills and resources.
No monetary payment will be made for your services.
No appraisals/supervision/praise or guidance will be given.
Very limited training will be available to begin, then all duties must be carried out correctly, without any guidance for a minimum of 16 years. And more likely, 40 or so years!
You may have to work a full 24 hours in any one day, and you will be expected to continue in this vein, for an unspecified number of days, dependent on the needs of the service.
You will not receive any breaks on any bank holidays at all. Including xmas day and new years eve.
For periods of incapacitation, you will be expected to fulfil all your usual tasks, and cover will not available.
Your reaction time to any impending crisis must be equal to that of a fire fighter.
You must find time to fulfil all necessary duties, even if other tasks must be carried out an a daily basis, such as full time paid employment, and the full management of your place of residence.
Nature is a funny thing, it makes the miracle that is a baby, but with only the bad stuff already hard wired into the brain. All the good stuff has to be formed, the synapses have to be fired up with love. Empathy, kindness, thoughtful-ness, giving, caring, loving, forgiveness, understanding, an open mind etc…All these qualities are missing from the brain of a child. They are only given distrust, fear, aggression and anger as a base point. So every single time another person has shown you some compassion in your life; through being kind, empathic, forgiving etc, they were most probably only able to offer you this because of their ‘Mother’…Whom, on top of fulfilling the above gargantuan job description, made them building blocks of social survival. And ultimately, they ‘under-write’ the happiness of us all, through the good bits they instill into our grey matter.
So next time you walk down the street and see two people laughing. Next time you see the smallest slice of kindness passed between two people. Next time you see a child playing and laughing. Next time you hear of a hero. Know that it is highly likely that a Mother is the very reason behind every one of these beautiful ‘happenings’…
You are the wondrous, selfless, silent, every day heroes of humanity. How you have come to be viewed as anything less is a mystery to me!!
And to my mother, you are my everything, and the most wonderful person I’ve ever known and will ever know. Thank-you for being everything we ever needed and so much more. I love you Mutti 😉 and I’m forever in your debt…for all that you instilled in my grey bits with your love.