It’s such an American term… but I fear its worldwide use has made it a necessary thing, a thing to find at the end of a relationship, for us all.
In most relationships, it comes without explanation. If you’re in one of those normal one’s where you’re both party to the demise and break up, then it’s not rocket science to read between the lines!
You don’t need to look at each other and say :- I don’t like you anymore, we argue all the time, it’s not been right for a long time, I screwed the gardener, oh don’t worry I screwed my secretary etc. You both kinda know as you’ve been living in reality…
BUT, what happens when you get dumped, and you’re not really sure why?
What about if you’re one of those people who waved your partner off for milk and bread one morning, It’s 6 years later, and you’re still waiting for them to come back?
These ones are not so easy to close. Ironically, it seems if someone flees so quick, that they leave the door open in the process, you may well find it tricky pushing the door shut when they’re gone. Far trickier than any others… in-fact
Why have you left? What did I do? How do I learn from this; when I never got to find out why you could hate me so much, you could leave like that?
These exits without explanation seem to share the same thing
The involvement of a ‘bull-shitter’ in the relationship… these people won’t ever tell you the truth, because lying is second nature, and they have bullshitted their way through life far easier, for far too long
So your left all alone, and in one hand you have this perfect person who you lived a perfect life with
And in the other, you have this person running for the hills without so much as a goodbye, and you can’t fathom …
What? When? Who? How? and Why?
Well…I’ve figured it out! If you are in a relationship that is almost too good to be true and all of a sudden, you find it’s gone…and you don’t know what happened?
What happened is – You had a foooking lucky escape from a liar and a world of bullshit and its associated…side shite. And the closure you need, will be obtained when you…
Close the door, stop wondering what you did wrong, and start realising that you were dating someone who really was not worthy of your love in the first place.
Actions speak louder than words; these people only have words and silences, so I guess there are 2 elements to closing these relationships
Closing your ears and opening your eyes, ready for the next time round. Ready to spot those actions when you need to (and not so you can lip read ;0)