Others argue that women have been bitch slapped into unhealthy fairy tales by Walt Disney and the like. Proposing that most women have idealistic and unrealistic aims when it comes to finding and maintaining loving relationships
Well, I have just watched ‘Love Actually’ for the umpteenth time, and I noticed that every time I welled up with tears… I also got goosebumps!
I checked out the reason for this and found out that goosebumps are linked to the part of the brain that controls our emotional responses
If love is nothing more than an obligatory act, how come our entire bodies react to it in the same way every time love or its side effects are displayed? Either in person, or through movies and songs
And all these men that claim they are far too evolved to feel the same, obviously haven’t been to any weddings lately – Generally the groom, against all intents and purposes, blubs like a baby when he sees his almost wife, walking down the aisle towards him
Few get through their vows without the lump in the throat extending, the emotion (the love) literally chokes them as they struggle to say 2 little words (I do)
Why are men still getting down on one knee if they are so immune to love? And how do they explain their physiological reactions to something that is considered an empty obligation, nothing more than a word?
Maybe when we all started out, love was just a word, but in the year 2012, I am definitely not the only one who has these bodily reactions, in response to demonstrations of love
And if we have evolved to the point where our body and mind are so intrinsically wired to love…’love’, then sometime long ago, we were just as much slaves to it then as we are now. It has been a necessity for long enough to cause our body mind and spirit to react to it simultaneously and involuntarily, and all in different ways
Love isn’t even a want for most people, neither is it an obligation, it is a ‘need-anation’
So perhaps their theories are correct but in the wrong order
Maybe the theory of obligation started because we want and need love, so we have organised our society in a way that attaches behaviours to the obligation – of having it and giving it
It is not the obligation itself which is unnatural, but the expectations that we attach to it, which often run against its essence
Why do we have these expectations? – Cos we’re all addicted to the stuff… and we do all that we can to cling onto it when we find it, and the dodgy behaviours that run against its tide, are simply human errors that thin with age
Love Rocks!!! Always… even when we screw it up!!!