Humans lie for many reasons; one less mentioned and less obvious reason, is to protect our privacy
Up until recently, I always thought it better to tell your close friends the real reasons behind your decisions and actions, as real friends generally accept you no matter what, and having true friends in your life is a blessing not to be under-estimated
I can be a bit anal about this, as I’m over sensitive about lies (even though I am at times, a liar). I like people who tell you how it is, even when it isn’t rosy, because you know where you are with them.
But I also have friends who believe they are being a better friend by not being straight with me, if the issue is controversial, hurtful and/or potentially explosive, and I see this method as just as committed, compassionate and loving.
Another thoughtful way of dealing with a lack of understanding; both methods come from the desire to be a good friend. It’s a matter of preference, rather than better or worse ways
HOWEVER, if your reasons for doing something or not doing something are kinda abnormal to said friend(s), and especially if they cannot understand or relate to them, they can and do make judgements about you that are outright wrong and hurtful, and if the reasons become increasingly outlandish, the less people get you, and the more you are subjected to being labelled something you are not
Which kinda pisses all of us off! Read the rest of this entry
‘I miss you’
I’ve noticed that this phrase, causes strange reactions in people
I blame this reaction on the phenomena known as poxy ‘sub text’
Why do people hear I miss you and think you’re actually saying…You are neglecting me
Why do people hear I miss you and think you’re actually saying…You don’t make time for me anymore
Why do people hear I miss you and think you’re actually saying…We are growing apart
When I say I miss you…It’s because I miss you
And I miss you because I think you’re great; because I love talking to you; because I love that I am lucky enough to be able to call you my friend; because I appreciate your advice; because I love how you make me laugh; because I want to know how you are; because I am blessed to have you in my life…and because you are impossible to forget. Read the rest of this entry
Come Again Please?
Today’s random thoughts on ‘making sense’.
For every word of every language, there are multiple dictionary definitions, as well as the other definitions that are formed by our individual brains and experiences…
When discussing this earlier, this example explained the human ‘part’
Boy says…..’I’m shy’…..He says this with a whole host of memories, and feelings, and experiences, which have shaped his meaning of shy
Girl hears……’I’m shy’……She then processes this with her whole host of memories, and feelings, and experiences, which have shaped her meaning of shy
Their own understanding’s of ‘shy’ are different……as are the implications that the word ‘shy’ holds.
Now if every word has mass multiple definitions AND meanings, you then have to consider that people and their circles, naturally use words, with a COMPLETELY different meaning to the dominant and/or dictionary one’s, as they form their own little language communities. They then use these words OUTSIDE of their circles, when talking to people who have no idea WTF they meant by that 🙂
After all this confusion… Read the rest of this entry